The Power of Being Held – Why We Heal in Safe Spaces
By Misty Lamppa
When I first started the Inner Alignment program, I wasn’t used to being held.
I was hyper-independent. The kind of person who powered through, who didn’t ask for help, who figured it out on her own.
So when I found myself in a container where people were checking in on me every day—deeply invested in my healing, genuinely there for me—it felt… awkward. Uncomfortable. Vulnerable.
But then something unexpected happened.
My heart softened.
My walls came down.
And for the first time in a long time, I let myself be truly held.
We’re Not Meant to Heal Alone
So many of us are taught to keep it together. To be strong. To not need anyone.
But the truth is: we’re wired for connection. And when that connection is safe, loving, and attuned—real healing can happen.
In Inner Alignment, one of the things that makes the experience so unique is the daily support from a small team. It’s not a once-a-week Zoom call. It’s every day, real time, loving presence. You’re never alone with your thoughts or your pain.
That constant care becomes a kind of cocoon.
And in that cocoon, something beautiful begins to shift.
Safety Changes Everything
When we feel safe—safe to feel, safe to express, safe to fall apart if needed—our nervous system begins to settle.
And when our nervous system settles, the body can finally begin to let go of what it's been holding.
That’s what happened to me.
I stopped bracing.
I stopped performing.
I let myself be seen.
And I realized… being held didn’t make me weak.
It made me whole.
Letting Love In
We often talk about boundaries (and I’m a big fan of healthy ones). But what I didn’t realize until this work was that my boundaries had become walls.
Walls that kept out not just pain—but love, too.
Now, my boundaries are different. They don’t shut people out. They help me stay open while staying true to myself.
And I can let others in—not because I need saving, but because we were never meant to do this alone.
If you’ve been carrying it all on your own…
If you’re tired of always being the strong one…
If a part of you longs to be met, seen, and held—
That longing is sacred.
And I want you to know:
Healing in safe, loving space isn’t weakness.
It’s your birthright.