BE the CHANGE

I sat this morning and wept in my car {I guess it’s trend-refer to my previous blog post}.  My brother posted something on social media the other day that was controversial for some. He had a friend respond, who felt very differently, and they went back and forth pleading their sides.  My brother invited his friend to get together in person where they could watch something together and talk about how they both felt about it. 
The friend never responded to that.

The thing about my brother is that he’s pretty selfless. He puts others before himself regularly.  If you've ever been a part of his life in any way you, know this about him.  He is kind, thoughtful, generous, tender-hearted and one of the best humans I know.

Something in that moment {of seeing his friend not respond} broke me. You see, if two people who really care about humanity, who really care about family, making an impact etc, can’t get together and hear each other out, what hope is there?

A few months ago {at a gathering I was leading} I voiced that all were welcome here…PERIOD… I had a participant whisper to me “you’re a better person than me.  I wouldn’t allow anyone that voted for X attend”. It knocked me off my energetic seat. How did we get to the place that we have become so close minded?

I am weeping for our world, for our nation, for our communities right now.  We have to do SOMETHING DIFFERENT?

The only things I can think of right now are:

1- Get off social media

2- Get connected in your community {and not just in the echo chambers in which you agree}

3- Get off the mass media

4-HEAL within

5- Seek connection to something higher than this world {higher consciousness, Divine, God, etc}, and seek a mentor/teacher/friend if you need help with that

Are you willing to sit with those friends who you might disagree with and listen without trying to win them over to your side? Are you willing to hear why they have their beliefs? What are their fears?  What are their hopes?

There is not one ounce of me that thinks that more social media posts about what you believe will change anyone else’s mind! I just don’t think it will.  But If you know I am a good loving person and I know you are, why can’t we keep knowing that about each other and talk about our differences?  WHY CAN’T WE LISTEN AND LOVE EACH OTHER.  How can we get back to connection?

Ask yourself:
1-Has it worked to bulldoze my ideas on others?
2- Has any of my public displays {especially social media} changed any minds?

3-Am I ready to actually care about  someone who feels differently than me?

4- Am I willing to keep caring about someone you’ve cared about and try to understand why they feel the way they do without trying to change their mind?

5- If not (#4}, what does it give you to not do that????

I think most of us know that what we are doing now isn’t working.  Let’s BE THE CHANGE we want to see in the world.  Not through OTHERING.  That doesn’t work.  Let’s UNITE.

BE the CHANGE!